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  • Colour_me_triggered@lemm.eetoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•What does the world think of India?
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    13 days ago

    I grew up in India’s abusive ex (UK). My impression was that people have a

    Most people have no problems with Indians and British culture is pretty heavily influenced by India (or at least more so than other countries). Most Brits like Indian food and everyone drinks tea. Vindaloo is especially popular with people who are very drunk, and also happens to be my favourite meal generally (they might ban it in Denmark soon). My experience is that Indians are pretty chill people.

    All the news we get from India paints the north as being full of insane zealots/rapists. Stories about whole villages pinning a man down so they can saw off and steal a man’s “holy leg” or young girls getting brutally gang raped etc. I know this probably isn’t the whole story but you need a decent pr team.

    Narendra Modi is a twat.

    Indians are stereotypically seen as either doctors or corner shop owners. Indians are typically seen as hard working. All tech support and telemarketing is outsourced to India and people don’t typically enjoy those things.

    That said the UK does have it’s fair share of racist morons, who will always have a problem with Indians, but that’s because they weren’t raised right.

    The caste system and arranged marriage are terrible. It doesn’t strike me as a good place for women.

  • Colour_me_triggered@lemm.eetoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•...
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    2 months ago

    Two part question:

    What are you prepared to put into a relationship and what do you want to get out of one?

    If each person wants what the other is willing to give, then the relationship is more likely to succeed. Not much else really matters that much.

  • Colour_me_triggered@lemm.eeOPtoCasual Conversation @lemm.ee•*Permanently Deleted*English
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    3 months ago

    I actually wasn’t complaining about spending literally 1 out of 52 weeks of the year in their company. I was merely stating that it’s sad that they’re like this and expressing an opinion that they no longer really fit into a good or decent world. That I would be relieved to not feel pressured into maintaining contact. That there would be a freedom from them just not being there. I don’t actually wish harm on them, but they are not mentally well and it’s exhausting being related to them.

    The inheritance isn’t like a massive sum of money but it is enough to make life quite a bit easier if properly invested. The main reason is that they actually treat the kids relatively well. Most of the bigotry is for adult ears only. Politics asside They are literally just mentally ill boomers trying to be reasonable and failing.

  • Colour_me_triggered@lemm.eeOPtoCasual Conversation @lemm.ee•*Permanently Deleted*English
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    3 months ago

    You’re an idiot for thinking that a couple of hours of talking to someone in their 70s will do anything other than antagonise them. Neither of them are capable of listening to reason, but they do own property. My share of it will definitely mean I don’t have to be homeless when I retire or lean on my kids like my mother does with my brother. Alienating them will make me a lot worse off in the long run and by extension my children.

    I’m doing everything in my power to make sure my children have a better start than I did, but a large part of that is making sure they don’t feel responsible for me when I’m old. I’m not going to change them by talking about it. They don’t believe there’s a problem. I worked in fast food for 8 years, I can put up with fewer than 10 weeks of narcissism, bigotry, and stupidity for my children’s financial wellbeing.

    I had to take out ridiculous sums of money in student loans to dig myself out of their self imposed poverty. And if I stick with it a little bit longer, They won’t have to. To suggest throwing away my children’s right to independence because of feels is an extremely privileged mindset that I just can’t afford.