FoundTheVegan

Tell your boyfriend if he STILL has beef that over time it’s gonna give him heart disease.

I feel for you and I’m sorry you also are going through it. I don’t blame you for taking umbridge with this all. But I also live in constant pain as well, after a dog attack a few years ago I can’t walk for more than an hour at a time, laying sitting and standing all hurt and even with pain meds, I can only get to a dull ache. I can’t work and the life I had before is gone, it was such shit trying to prove to skeptical condescending doctors saying just to do stretches and it will get better, but… Here I am still waiting.

So while I feel where you are coming from with this time of chronic pain, I am ready to deal with this and other life debilitating conditions if I also get to feel like it was to run again, to climb, to see through the eyes of an athlete. To be able to walk normally and enjoy events again. I’d take my own pain and yours again to feel human again.

Honestly, those are all selling points. I’d love to understand how a coma patient thinks a few months in, a few years in and a few decades in. What it’s like to die in war in the year, 700, 1700 & 2700. To die as a newborn and then eventually see how those very parents are affected. So long as it is randomized and I’m statistically likely to see something radically different tommorow, I don’t think I’ll ever get sick of the human experince.

What was life like for ever human that has ever existed? I’d like to see every single day start to finish from their perspective, sorted as randomly as possible.

The worst part of traditional immortality is being stuck as you, I’d like to experience the entire library and range of human experinces. It would eventually know how it started and how it all ended, while seeing every perspective that got us there. They’d be a lot of days toiling in a field, a lot of days in office cubicles toiling in excel, but most importantly I’d see the small victories and tragedies that make up every life. I think that’d be the real beauty.

At least a decade plus.

Either talk about the plot, set a production date or stop writing these nothing articles.

I mean, no duh Tarantino would do a Trek movie that has lots of blood. To be familiar with his name is to know that’s his style. Just tired of years teasing how great something WOULD’VE BEEN but not saying why.

like whenever I see other trans women who don’t pass it gives me a little burst of dread

As a someone who does pass, these moments fill me with guilt and a degree of imposter syndrome as I wonder why I got to be lucky when I am no more valid than anyone else. And then that’s more guilt as I then become self-conscious of something that I know so many people strive and yearn for. But these moments also prompt memories of my early days when I was absolutely not passing, and how fragile, scared and humiliated I felt.

Letting go of passing as a concept entirely is probably unrealistic for most of us, but when you have these moments of dread it’s healthier to recognize your common fears, struggles and vulnerability. Don’t let dread win, because you only ever notice 100% of the people you do notice. Some of us eventually live in stealth, and then have internalized intrusive thoughts from that as well.

In a sense I guess I’m saying the grass is always greener, so it’s better to learn comradery with those that feel the same as you do, as opposed to using them as a yard stick for yourself. It’s not something that will just click and fade away, but a consenious choice to be the kindness we all want to see in the world.

Well, this sort of thing is honestly above any social media’s pay grade, so I will only tell you what I did after talking with my therapist

I know how this feels and I’m sorry you are going through it too. After the only member of my family who was even remotely kind to me died (and even that was an abusive relationship), I cut off contact with everyone else related to me and my life has only improved. It’s been about 6 years now but i am much happier for it, no judgement, no yelling, no control, life is just… quieter.

You can’t control how others act, and your father has had several decades to reconsider. At a certain point, you should just protect your own well being and go no contact.

Being a part of your life is a privilege, not a right.

I’ve been rewatching Futurama and honestly there is a lot of jokes even in the first season that made me uncomfortable. Mostly sight gags of horribly depicted trans femmes played for laughs. I wouldn’t call it a safe show.

Holy shit. Orange is the new black is great and I like the show, but the biggest trigger warning in the world for trans femmes. There is some incredibly disturbing, and accurate depictions of trans hate crimes. :/

Steven, especially the first few seasons is super feel good low impact chill show.

Gravity falls is also pretty great for this.

Dec 31st 1949.

I’m a queer woman, so these sort of time travel questions boil down to preserving as many rights as I can.

I’m laying on my side in bed, so… I guess I jump two feet in the air, fall, make a big sound, probally bounce off and break some stuff and then have back problems all day.

It won’t pass, but it’s a reminder of what they will do when in power.

Please vote.

Awww, I’m so happy for you Amelia! Happy and PROUD of you for working through your emotions and exploring what truly makes you happy!

So what should your newest girl buy herself to celebrate

• Nail polish! If we are starting with first things first, then do something that will make you feel from your point of view. We spend our entire lives looking at our hands! Rings and jewelry for the same reason. The beauty of this is that it all comes off depending on where you are or how “out” you are going to be with people.

• Liquid eyeliner and some basic “nude” eyeshadow pallets are also a great thing to start playing around with. Don’t get discouraged if it at first things don’t turn out the way you hope, just keep in mind that girls in middile school also have crappy makeup because they are using it for the first time too, it’s just a pure pratice thing. Start with aiming for a good cat eye, there are tools and stencils to make it easier. Most cashiers and strangers in the world look you in the eye initially, so if you can femme it up that will go a looooong ways to help with people understanding how you want to be treated.

• To this end, if you can work up the courage to go a eyebrow place you’d be honestly shocked how much your face can change with a good arched brow. Doesn’t matter if you boy mode there, they won’t ask questions nor care, but they are also professionals so they will also know what you mean if you ask for a more “feminine look”.

• Lastly, find some other trans women IRL, look around your area for a support group. These ladies will have so much more experince in your area, while also understanding completely where you are coming from. Online friends are great, but IRL ones are life savers! Now that you understand your dysphoria, it can sometimes get worse as your mind now knows exactly what to focus on, get some girlfriends to bitch about it with over drinks. I promise it’s a game changer!

I hope this helps! I remember my eye cracking as a scary confusing time too, but happier days of clarity are ahead! You did the hard part already, defeating the transphobe in your own head is always the first and hardest obstacles.

Once again, I’M SO PROUD OF YOU for getting to the end of these emotions instead of just repressing. Let us know when you have questions! ♥ 💕

Oh yeah, this is super standard. Honestly I had to scroll down to find what was even notable to you about this picture. I live in a major city and basically every store I go in to looks identical to this.

Not quite emails, but its the same idea…

My mother will walk all around the house with her phone blaring some 30+ minute tiktok ad. She is fully aware that it is an ad, but something at the start promised an answer to … something… and now she HAS to know what it is. She complains about having to wait so long to get to the end and calls everything in the middle nonsense, and the answer she always gets is “buy thing X” but… she does it anyways. A lot. She isn’t super interested in actually watching documentary since that requires paying attention, and with this she can just set it to the side while washing dishes or something.

We’ve given up on telling her that ads exist to sell things, she views them as “mini biased documentaries” which… I suppose is sorta accurate. But it still confuses the hell out of me.

I really don’t see the appeal of paperbooks anymore. Ebooks are infintly more practical. Lightweight and easily fillable with endless content. Why would I ever want to lug around a single novel when I can just slide my entire library in my purse?

I’ve heard from an optometrist that Amazon paperlites solve the eye strain issue. Specfically asking “Why do you hate your eyes?” when I told him I read via a tablet.

The only downside is giving Amazon money…

This is very much a good thing. It’s a bit of a trope at this point that saying “trans” makes people assume “Male-to-Female”. You’ll find no shortage of trans mascs complaining about the erasure. Let 'em have the spotlight for once.