Leading a one woman branch of the Erisian Liberation Front! In love with almost everything all the time.
If you’re of OG Futurama age, King of the Hill is pretty good about not being transphobic. I will always love Hank refusing to speak to Peggy’s friend Caroline when she answered the phone in boy mode. No, he’s looking for his wife’s friend Caroline. Please don’t try to confuse him with stories about who she used to be. He used to sell jeans, and only people close to him know that.
Random trans folk I see look right past me.
I had this happen with a whole group of trans women staying at the motel I used to work at. I passed to them to the point that there was no “oh hey!” moment, no Charlie Kelly meerkat eyes. It was a strange experience, at once sad and satisfied?
Now I work at a dispensary and smoke or vape weed every day. For better or worse, I’ll never voice pass consistently in a world with legal weed. Which I guess is fine. I’m not especially fond of the “oh whoa” moment on the faces of straight men who have decided from a distance I was a hotgirl™ and they were gonna treat me a certain way, but I guess I’d rather disarm straight people than be invisible to young trans girls.
the models and movie stars and idols and influencers
Most of them don’t actually “look like that.” They are photographed from the best angles with expensive camera equipment and lighting. Then they select the best photos from a series of mediocre to great shots. These selected photos are often then edited. There are billions of women who could look like that if they had $20k to drop on a professional makeover and photoshoot
I’m a Discordian and once walked backwards for several days as a child. Idk what that does for your data pool.
If you’re in SW Missouri you can x_x
I don’t want to follow closely, just occasionally dive in for fun perspective spectating. But maybe you’re on the right path with the Hexbear allow list. I should see if I can get Hexbear to allow feddit.nl.
Shit. That’s what I was afraid of. I guess feddit.nl isn’t the perfect neutral it once was. I specifically chose a home instance that would allow me to access Hexbear and some of the other more extreme instances. Is there a decent migration tool? I am established on this account and am a mod on a few communities. I don’t want to lose Hexbear or all my posts and positions.
You’re not wrong. I stopped going to CVS in part because only a portion of the pharmacy staff could be respectful. Two of the three actual pharmacists (both of the men -_-) obviously didn’t care if I got my estrogen or injection supplies. They also couldn’t keep my supplies in stock or get them in a timely manner, then treated me like I was seeking drug paraphernalia when I constantly needed syringes.
I guess I just don’t trust that anyone has adequate training and policies for this. My experience is that, if there isn’t anyone with authority making us a policy priority, we are at the mercy of the personal beliefs and opinions of whoever is working at the moment. =/
I just want to gloat about my dispensary in here. We’re definitely where the cool queers get their weed. I’ve never been treated with anything but love and respect. The GM and AM both have significant personal connections to trans people in their lives. (The AM is my best friend, and I’ve seen her tense up at the notion that a random woman looked enough like her to be her sister, because she doesn’t have a sister, and she will fight about it <3) The weekend closing manager is me. We are the only dispensary in town with the “Transgender safe space” tag on Google. (There are several with the LGBTQ friendly tag.) It’s just all around a wonderful place to work and shop.
Big businesses are definitely worse about it because they don’t have real training and nobody feels they have the authority to act on things in the moment. I work at a small location for a medium sized business. If there is an issue with how a trans person is addressed, I can swoop in and make sure it is immediately corrected and understood. I have been fast enough to stop potentially uncomfortable moments before they happened. (I like to think nobody at my dispensary would do worse than an uncomfortable misstep, but I try to prevent those too.) There is no equivalent to that in a large, faceless corporate workplace. Managers, regardless of their quality or training, aren’t going to be reliably present. Employees are on their own with their existing skills, training, personalities, and biases. You can find a small business with a culture of respect you can count on. You’ll always be gambling with a big business.
Why can’t I see any comments there? I can see the posts, but it says they all have 0 comments?
I’m an autonomy maximalist. If you think this is right for you, do it. It’s just a wild idea to me. For me, it was a door that, once opened, could not be closed.
Ngl I wouldn’t do that for a partner. Not a chance. I don’t have family in my life. No future partners of mine will meet my family. I don’t have to meet my partners’ families. I wouldn’t make myself miserable for two weeks minimum for any family. Not a chance I would do this. You say “when I am safe again.” I wouldn’t be with a partner who wanted me to feel like that for their comfort.
Canadian Rafael “Fast Eddie” Cruz thinks the first ammendment gives him the right to harass his coworkers! That’s because Canadian Rafael “Fast Eddie” Cruz is an asshole!
Tbh gaming as a whole. I’m 34, and I’ve played video games basically my whole life. When I was young, it was a niche interest. It grew rapidly, but I remember when we were a fairly small number. Now gaming is so assumed that individual games are hobbies. Gaming language is embedded in our culture. I remember it being a rare novelty that few people understood and fewer took seriously.
There is literally only one person developing SDV and Haunted Chocolatier. This is literally an impossible statement. There is only ConcernedApe, and he has not announced any cancelation.
Don’t tell my communist friends, but I’m super excited to work Black Friday at my dispensary x_x I read Convenience Store Woman while off work this week, and I am ready to be back where things make sense to me. I have faith in the world inside the weed filled box <3
Tbh I play the hell out of some Kairosoft games on mobile <_< I love watching my little guys thrive.
BG3 is a huge exception. It’s more popular by far than most games of the sort. And still only two of the dozen gamers I work with has played any of it, and they are both done with it.
all these gamers glowing about how great it is
Where? If you mean online, yeah, online discussion and gaming publications focus on more complex games that more serious gamers are playing. There’s just more to say about them. And news sites are gonna pay more attention to exceptions to the norm like BG3. None of the many gamers in my life are talking about it. If you’re hearing about BG3 and other huge, complex games regularly, it’s because you are spending time in spaces where and with people who care about them. Because it’s not just everywhere.
Holy shit that’s actually crazy to me. [I actually tracked down that number because I was so curious] (https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1007/s00268-017-3895-9) It’s over half cancer surgery. I’ve known that the regret rate for transition surgery was low for a long time, but that piece of context kinda blows my mind. You’re more likely to regret a variety of life saving procedures than gender affirming surgery, and it’s often by insane orders of magnitude.