I really like this comic. Aside from being non binary and maybe asexual I’m also autistic, academically gifted and chronically ill (and if you want to stretch it, left handed). I’m in varying stages of coming out for these and for some I heavily resent having to come out. Gender identity is where I feel the worst resentment. If it was more normal to expect people to be queer it would be way less dangerous or not even necessary. The individual incidence of queer identities is rare but if you take all versions of queerness it’s not that rare anymore.

They made noises about wanting to change the trans law as soon as they got elected and formed the coalition. The longer the process dragged on the less optimistic I was. And I’m now at the point where I wonder if I should change my legal gender at all. It’s not like people suddenly act like non binary people exist anyway.

Yeah there’s certainly a lot of trans related things I discuss with my binary trans friend. Dysphoria most notably. But he wants to be seen as a gender that already exists (and is exposed to more danger for it) while I want to be seen as a category people don’t have in their minds at all which brings it’s own issues.

Figuring these kind of things out mid life certainly is a process isn’t it? I’m glad I also have younger cis friends who are just much more open to all sorts of queer identities. But it’s still hard for me the discuss at all IRL.

I also use queer. I’m agender, I don’t indentify with any gender and I’ve given up figuring out whether the term “trans” applies to me or not. But I’m queer. That’s nice and easy to use in conversation.

If it helps I also was firmly over 30 when I figured it out.

Ah. Thanks for explaining. In their twisted world that sort of makes sense.

I’m especially fascinated by the gendered difference in whether you get to keep your titles. So transitioning one way means you keep your chess muscles? But not the other? Transness itself isn’t the problem then?? I’d love to hear them attempt to justify that rule.

Yeah. I was reminded of the sports “debate” as well. Chess is one of the sports where you wonder why they have a gender division in the first place. Are they afraid of loosing to trans people or women (cis and trans)?

I tend to speak up when I see it and my admonishments are usually upvoted. So there is that. But yes it’s exhausting.

Why don’t you accept who you are? Which is someone not wanted around these parts.

I certainly see elements of that in the neurodiverse spaces as well.

And as if somehow it’s a requirement to dismiss other women’s stories of assault to qualify for feminity.

That’s what you should say to the transphobe.

You’re a real woman and anyone who questions it is loosing touch with their humanity.

I’ve been in your place too about having next to no social life and jeering to decide if my identity or my connections were worth keeping because I couldn’t have both. It doesn’t help that I belong to multiple minorities. In the end I decided I can’t get a new identity and nobody who discriminates against who I am can be called a friend. Some years down the line I have a very loyal cat who has never once attempted to explain to me that she really know more about autism than I do or that my gender isn’t real or that I really need to go to a church. It’s touch and go with human friendships but it’s nice to have the space in my life for nurturing relationships.

My choice isn’t for everyone but I hope this can give you some food for thought.

It’s still unreasonable to expect the people who are actively oppressed to cater to him. If you have the energy sure. But otherwise that’s another expression of privilege. If cishet men can only sympatise with each other through incel forums maybe they themselves need to be better.

Same. I’m agender and I often wish for a trial run before I commit.

or more cynically, there’s probably some really exemplary members of the human species begging to turn sub’s into their particular cesspool.

started with connect for lemmy. which is visually very clean but it neither has an edit comment function nor a block user function yet. lemming has both functions but loks a lot more clunky.

*savy politicians

where’s the edit button? 😖

my best speculation is that Prigozhin comes off as a stupid brute who was reigned in by wavy politicians after brute force was more effective than anyone expected. but it’s really just rando speculation.