Can I ask why you felt the need to comment something so dismissive and negative when you also readily admit that this just isn’t targeted at you? I just want to understand. I don’t think you intend to be hurtful, but that is indeed what’s happening. Having to pass on the binary is a safety issue for a lot of trans people just as much as it’s affirming and euphoric.
Why would it be a mistake? If you want to have blue hair, go for it. Life is short and dyed hair is for everyone.
I’d like to see the results if you feel like posting it!
As a FTM, I don’t find there to be any specific endorsement of body views in the article. Rather, he is being transparent with who he has in mind, which is extremely helpful to someone like myself. It lets me know how to approach the text for my own use.
I think immediately dismissing the author as harmful merely because he’s exacting in his disclaimers is a disappointing take. If it isn’t applicable to you, that’s fine. Going so far as to lob accusations over body image is pretty rough - more so when you’re not the target audience. Finding good sources speaking to the FTM experience is so rare and it saddens me to see anyone want to tear it down right out of the gate.
Traditional and digital artist here. I do graphic design and illustration. Have always had a healthy interest in tech, though.
I made a list of names I’ve always liked and found I kept coming back to one in particular, so that had to be it.
“Someone who doesn’t identify as male or female” has worked with my boomer family.
I am from a very catholic family. Before I knew what or who I was, I had family members use religion as abuse to belittle and degrade me from the age of 6 onward. My home life was awful and extended family piled on to make sure I really had nothing left for myself to cling to. I was kept on a cycle of love bombing (with church approved rewards only) when the constant insistence on my selfishness and awfulness would periodically succeed in breaking me. It made life entirely unenjoyable by design. Yet the programming they instilled also came with heavy guilt designed to keep me trapped by “faith.”
I understand the fear of knowing you need to leave. The abuse ramped up every time I even remotely suggested I be able to live without the church. But my only regret is that I wish I had done it sooner. Religion doesn’t stop you from coming out. The toxicity that it bakes into the community and your family does. They make it very hard and painful to stand up for yourself and advocate for life to be the gift it is. As with many such things, the cruelty seems to be the point.
It’s been made clear time and time again
Please cite examples. This entire post is disproving this already.
To point this out is not “ragebaiting” and that’s completely absurd that you would even claim that.
It’s absurd to come in here, throw around vague accusations, and then do absolutely no work to back up those claims.
the hivemind
There are already more viewpoints being expressed within respondents to this post than in typical reddit front page subs. I’m sorry but it is not good faith to start name calling. I feel like you know that, though.
I’m confused as to why you’d post such a reddit-esque bait statement when so many of the responses are civil, patient, and respectfully explaining viewpoints without attacking OP. Don’t you think discourse can be better than that? Don’t you want to at least give it a chance?
This will be news to no one, but Slay the Spire was an absolute bonkers thing to drop on roguelikes.
Hi there. I’m trans. It wasn’t up to me. I didn’t choose to be. Life would be way easier if I wasn’t. I’m dealing with it as best I can so I can live my life. An entire political party is currently putting money and energy behind denying me healthcare. I’m an adult. I’m at a point where I can’t make hormones on my own but that doesn’t matter to them. The dysphoria I was experiencing prior to transitioning was straight up not compatible with continuing to live. You don’t even have to take my word for it - several doctors at different agencies agreed enough to write letters for me to start care. It is disingenuous to look at how conservatives are trying to, at best, make me very sick on a daily basis, or are, at worst, trying to put me in the ground and say “yeah, this is just as bad as the left’s typical talking points.”
If I were a cis person who couldn’t synthesize my own hormones for whatever reason, there would be nothing stopping me from getting this exact. Same. Treatment. These things don’t happen by accident. They happen because the hate is there to open the door and a lot of self-proclaimed “good” folks are real happy to watch it go down.
How do you reconcile with such an insanely disjointed false equivalency? Honest question.
At least one of them is just not leaving the house for the time being. It’s tempting to do the same thing but I need to at least leave for groceries and shit. Can’t afford delivery.
edit: I should also mention I live in a state where they are legislating away treatment for both adults and minors and we’re just hoping the courts can come through eventually with protecting us.
In the past week, I’ve had three other transmen in my various circles tell me about being followed in a public place in my state (not even in the same parts of the state, mind you) being harassed by someone with their hand on their open carry gun. Unfortunately I feel like we’re going to be seeing more of this shit. I’m trying to be careful with where I go in general but I’ve gotten especially homebound since June started.
It would at least affect people adding ‘reddit’ to google searches if they start to encounter a lot of posts with information they’re looking for edited out.
I wish we as a species would just drop this trend of having to eventually ruin a good thing just about every goddam time.
Damn that’s such a nice blue! Thanks for updating with a pic. You look great!