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Cake day: October 8th, 2023

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  • I’m so sorry for what you and your girl are going through. You are both so lucky to have each other. She’s been holding on for you because she loves you so much and you have taken such good care of her. I read somewhere that to our animal friends we are like elves, so long lived and seemingly unchanging that their lifetimes are so short to us but we are their whole lives. I think that you will know when it’s time, you can probably tell when she is in pain whether she wants you to or not. In the mean time snuggle her, spoil her, feel the warmth and texture of her fur. The time you have now is so precious. When she refuses food, or struggles to breathe it’s time. But for now, just love her and give her some pets for me too ❤️


  • You Belong With Me - Taylor Swift, this song played non stop when I worked retail and OMG it’s so grossly misogynistic, she’s just trashing this girl because she has the audacity to date HER crush. And she’s just showing up at his house when she knows they are going through a rough patch all like you should be with me instead. 🤢 This is the IM NOT LIKE OTHER GIRLS anthem with a grating faux Southern accent and banjos. 🙃





  • That’s fair, it’s kind of a niche group but lemmy would be the place to find us vegan/leftist/nerds lol. You were right about my description, American currently on the East Coast. I would love if we could upgrade to a completely secular system that includes psychological/emotional evaluation as well as financial application as well but I don’t see it happening anytime soon. I would love to adopt, but seeing as I’m unwilling to conform to Christian/heteronormativity standards I doubt I would get approved. It’s maybe a point of contention, which might be why I’ve never brought it up. I’m a damn good mom, but I’m not a “Republican Mother.”


  • Okay, this is a strange question. There are a lot of moving parts involved in adoption which is, in my experience, universally accepted as noble, regardless of their political leaning and ethical eating choices. As a “so far left ya get your guns back” leftist and vegan, I presume that I fall into this category lol. There are some pretty glaring barriers to adoption for me: most adoption agencies are extremely selective, expensive and run by (mostly Christian groups.) Yes, there are children in foster care that you could potentially be able to adopt eventually. But there’s no certainty for anyone because the want to “reunite” biological families. But if you’re a gay witch, get fucked. Anecdotally, the people that I know that have adopted are religious nut jobs who treat their adopted children like domestic slaves while spoiling their “real” (their words, not mine 🤮) kids.











  • I am so sorry that you’re going through this, the lack of support from your family just breaks my heart. As another commenter posted, I also thought you were a woman because, well, frankly that’s how the medical industry treats women. Don’t let these dismissive doctors gaslight you into believing you’re fine, you live in your body and know when something is wrong. You deserve to be heard and deserve to receive proper treatment. My advice for you would be to take a supportive person with you, if that’s not an option then take a list of all your symptoms and try to keep it is as “factual” as possible with information like dates, severity of symptom (ex 1-5 range) duration and any as possible, since you’ve taken anti-anxiety medication it’s going to be a bit of an uphill battle since 90% of doctors will immediately dismiss your concerns as anxiety 😤. So when that happens, counter with, my emotional state is stable I’m here for physical issues that are distressing and deeply impacting my quality of life. Ask questions, I have already worked on my anxiety and pursued treatment, it’s not that, this is what I have tried , it has not eased my symptoms so what else can be? What do I do if the symptoms get worse during a flare up? What kind of treatments should I pursue? Can you please update my chart to include the treatments I have pursued? And as hard as it can be be straightforward, something like, I understand you are busy, I feel like you are not listening me as a patient, can you provide me a clear plan to address this or can you refer me to someone who can?