I think especially Lemmy.ml should rather focus more on cleaning up their Tankie & moderator issues

As much as I would love to see it, I don’t think the lead devs of lemmy, who own both lemmy.ml and lemmygrad.ml, are going to ban themselves.

What are you on about? Dessalines said “No, that is full of CSAM.” I would like to know how they came to that conclusion.

or do the .ml admins have a more broad definition of csam?

Their definition seems to be “I don’t like anime”.

OP is lying through their teeth, nothing was found.

Literally any evidence at all beyond “dessalines said so” would be a good start. Hell, even dessalines specifically describing what he saw would be great.

for topic based instances. I was just looking for an updated list the other day.

I’ve got a pretty good list here: https://kbin.social/m/specialized_instances/t/186667/Big-list-of-specialized-instances

In case you haven’t seen it yet, I’ve compiled a fairly sizeable list of focused instances. More would be cool, but there’s a fair number to check out already.

Sympathy lost for this attention seeker.

She was an attention seeker back on reddit

So you never had any sympathy to begin with, because aTtEnShUn SeEkEr, which is the lamest cop-out ever. Just say you hate women and get it over with.

Sounds like you’re just proving her point.

Don’t stretch yourself too thin, though. Might be something to back-burner if money is tight.

I’m surprised that this doesn’t exist already. There’s terefere.eu - “Arts & history instance”, but it seems to be down at the moment so I can’t see more details. There’s also crystals.rest - “A general instance for livestreaming, anime, and retro art!”, but that’s just for one specific type of art.

Adding this one to the list of specialized instances

This meme is stealing.

So just speaking from my personal experience, XMPP was absolutely useless for me, whereas OpenOffice wasn’t. Microsoft did succeed in preventing OO from eating significantly into its market share, but OO continued to exist and be useful. It eventually caught up on the ability to read and write MS Office XML files, and in the meantime I only had a few occasions where I had to tell people “I can’t read docx, send it to me as doc or rtf”. To be fair though, I’m not a super heavy user of Office software.

In contrast, XMPP was basically nothing without Google. I couldn’t use it before Google federated, and I couldn’t use it after Google defederated. ¯\(ツ)/¯

Kbin/lemmy/mastodon are in a far better bargaining position than XMPP was, and in a better position than OO as well. They’re perfectly usable without being connected to corporate platforms, and they don’t need to market to corporate customers either. To be clear, I’m not saying that they should or shouldn’t block the corporate platforms. I think it’s actually probably best if some of them do and some of them don’t.

Which actually makes me think that mastodon might have a little to worry about since its less anonymous and who you follow actually matters. And there is more interaction between (not anonymous) people.

Yeah, I guess there’s more of a focus on individual personalities. Still, mastodon has its core of users that choose to use it despite the fact that it doesn’t have the celebrities or the millions of people that twitter has. They don’t need any of the corporate platforms to federate with them, whereas XMPP did. That puts them in a much better negotiating position as far as protocol changes go.

One key difference between link aggregators (kbin/lemmy/reddit/digg) and microblogs (twitter/mastodon) on the one hand, vs social networks (facebook/myspace/diaspora/friendica) and instant messengers (aim/icq/xmpp/signal) on the other, is that the latter is highly dependent on your real-life social network, while the former is not. People using instant messengers and people on facebook want to use them to interact with their friends and family, so they have to use the platforms that those friends and family are on. On the other hand, people are happy to use link aggregators and microblogs as long as there are interesting people and communities to follow, even if they consist entirely of strangers.

Back in the early days of XMPP, when it was still known as “Jabber”, I tried switching to it from AOL Instant Messenger. I told all of my contacts about it, and tried to get them to set up Jabber accounts. I was super excited that instant messaging was finally being standardized the way email was, and we wouldn’t have to deal with AIM vs MSN messenger vs Yahoo messenger vs etc. I think I was also still bitter about being forced to switch from ICQ to AIM because all my friends had switched. I don’t think I got a single person to start using Jabber, though. At one point I even declared that I was going to stop using AIM entirely, and that people would have to switch over so that we could keep talking to each other. Didn’t work, of course. I just ended up not being able to talk to anyone until I finally went back to AIM.

A bunch of my friends use reddit, but we don’t use the site to interact with each other in any meaningful way. This made switching to kbin really easy. Sure, I’ve told a few of them about it, but it doesn’t really matter to me if they switch or not. As far as I’m aware, XMPP never really became it’s own “thing” and experienced the kind of growth that the threadiverse has. Since we’ve passed the point of being self-sustaining, we can keep growing one user at a time, as individuals decide that they’re tired of reddit and make the jump.

Because of this difference in dynamic, we’re in a much better position against Meta than XMPP was against Google. The fact that we can even consider outright blocking Meta is a really good sign for us, regardless of whether we do so or not. Even if we do end up in a situation where 90% or even 99% of users are on Meta’s platform, we can still refuse to allow them to compromise the ActivityPub protocol. Attempts to “embrace, extend, extinguish” will likely just result in non-blockading instances joining the anti-Meta blockade. With the connection to Meta severed, we’ll just go back to enjoying the company of the 1 to 10% that remain, and that portion will likely be much larger than what we have now.