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WTF mate?!

Wow, I’m crying too. So awesome and so happy for you!! ❤️

I’ll second CBT, it helped me a lot. My therapist started with identifying my “core beliefs” like “worrying* helps me avoid bad things” and “worrying makes me better at my job” and then through some structured routines helped me change or event disregard them. I’m very analytical and she really helped show the illogical nature of all the time I spent worrying.

That said I first needed a low dose zoloft prescription to even be willing to book the therapy, but I’ve since weened off it.

*specifically hypothetical worries, i.e. “what if”

First I want to say I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way, and I know we’re just internet strangers, but we care; I care. I went through a really bad year about one year ago, the cat thing hits hard, I was exactly there.

Please consider talking to someone professional, and if you aren’t ready (it took me months to finally make an appointment) take care of yourself as much as you can in the meantime. I only did about 12 weeks over the phone (and it was surprisingly affordable, if that factors for you). CBT really helped me deal with a lot of the same issues, I was looking to please everyone, but myself.

Talking through and challenging some of the really toxic beliefs I had, especially around if I’m important, helped so much. I’m living my best life and finding my joy for me, and it’s starting to snowball into a full blown social life. I struggled so much with the “what’s the point” question, and wasn’t even sure if I had an answer after my last session, but I’m living the answer now and I’m so thankful for my cat.

I’m approaching 40 this year. Around 20, I missed an important uni deadline, and meant the degree I had planned would cost me an extra year I couldn’t afford (like literally couldn’t afford the tuition). Managed to finish, but with a degree no one would recommend. Was absolutely panicked.

Ultimately, ended up very successful in a job in a country on the other side of the world. Met the woman who is now my wife of 13 years, had some amazing adventures, moved to a few more different countries, changed industries again about 10 years ago, and worked my way up to upper management again before leaving that field too.

TL;DR No, stress has brought me nothing but misery, I have no regrets except that I didn’t enjoy the ride as much as I could have.

Learn new stuff as you work, or as hobbies (my entire second career started as a hobby). Don’t be afraid to “fake it till you make it” and keep an eye out for jobs you didn’t even consider as a possibility. I personally avoid corporate gigs, smaller independent companies are more likely to notice you and use you for the skills you bring. Life can fly by, enjoy the ride.

Psh, my fetish is thrusting into an empty vacuum.

FSM help me, but I’m about to defend Florida…

I just spent some time there, visiting a friend, and while yes, I encountered some of the worst humanity has to offer, the LGBTQ+ scene is pretty great in some places. Saw some of the best drag performers I’ve ever seen in Miami, at some of the warmest most inviting queer bars I’ve ever been to. It had the vibes of circling the wagons, but if you want in, you’re welcome and “we got you”.

Shit like this breaks my heart for them, but there are a lot of good people still fighting the good fight down there. Fuck Desantis and all the fascists.

I’d argue running a laptop from the 00s is the least boomer thing to do. Buying a new Macbook every two years while complaining that you don’t have enough money and joking about how you’re spending your kid’s inheritance is the boomer thing to do.

BRB, gotta go beat some straight people in Madrid.

How does he even find time for securities fraud?!

Not sad, just sick of this shit.

Same Zero, same.

Gut is a brave agency for brave clients.

Except for the things where we’re so risk adverse we’d rather let a dozen opportunities pass by than take a chance.

Just finished binging The Righteous Gemstones… Shocked to find out it’s a documentary.

Not that shocked.

And they make a low track version, basically bigger grains. Our cat drags out considerably less litter now, though some cats might not like the texture on their paws.

That’s awesome. Yeah, definitely a rollercoaster for me, winter gets harder since walking was/is a big part of my routine. But even 25kg must feel great. I love feeling like I’ve kept some of the muscle, but lost a beer keg worth of extra weight every time I climb some stairs or carry something heavy.

At first, solo, very solo. Like I’d even avoid my wife until I felt comfortable, because at my size (was over 300lbs) certain things were embarrassingly difficult. As I lost some, and more importantly found workouts that worked for me, I started venturing out, now I do a lot of group classes (dance stuff mostly). Even though I’m still often the biggest, I feel a lot better about myself overall so I enjoy it and I’ve found some very supportive studios with awesome vibes.

Two ways:
One, it kinda gamified it for me, just having a score, meant I could go for a high score on days when I had the time for lots of steps/exercise. They build some in too, like streaks and hitting goals.

Two, the HR monitor definitely helped me push harder in cardio workouts. Knowing when I hit my max, and when it started dipping made even short workouts feel more effective (even if they weren’t, placebo FTW).

The cheap (est, I think) fitbit. Dropped a 100lbs and it was a big part of the motivation.

Because teaching takes time, kids don’t learn abstract concepts, like social cues, overnight.

Grandma told a funny joke, this is a lighthearted casual situation.
“Great Fucking Joke Grandma!”

It’s not shielding them entirely, it’s waiting until they are old (read:smart) enough to have a good chance of knowing when it’s OK.

I mean, Bartlett, but also James Marshall (Harrison Ford - Air Force One) and Thomas Whitmore (Bill Pullman - ID4).