I’ve never heard of Porkbun, but it doesn’t sound like a caddy issue. Let’s Encrypt requires being able to resolve the DNS name you’re requesting a cert for, and to be able to connect to your web service and fetch a secret to prove you own the domain. If porkbun does something like punch a hole in your LAN firewall and let in http traffic, then porkbun is the problem. Not Caddy.

Yeah, I’ve not had issues accessing my instance with a VPN. But it’s the world we live in. I had a vigorous discussion with someone (it’s in my history), vigorous because I replied to a post aggressively, about the poster blocking VPN clients on their self-hosted blog. Someone quite rightly pointed out that botnets, hackers, and spammers are heavy users of VPNs, and sometimes it’s just easier for a hobby admin to block VPN exit nodes. I’ve come to terms with it; there’s nothing online I need to read so badly that I’m going to compromise my own security for their convenience.

As for privacy, you’re absolutely right. Privacy? In a public forum? A federated public forum?? Pick an instance that doesn’t require an email address to register, or use a throw-away email.

But to answer OP’s question: Reddit is owned by a single group of people with complete admin control over the site. Lemmy has many diverse site owners and admins; there is no Spez.

Fucking knackered! It means very tired, exhausted. But those terms are sterlized of feeling, of life.

Are you sure that anima you ascribe to “knackered” isn’t coming from the adjective? “Fucking exhausted!” sounds, to my ear, just a full of feeling. Whereas, “I’m knackered” sounds just as lifeless as “I’m exhausted.” I wonder if you’re mis-attributing the vigor from “fucking,” which is, indeed, a potent word.

Cheese. Until I lived in Europe and discovered there was more than American and cheddar.

You know that old cracker, “when you’re on your death bed looking back at your life, what will you wish you’d done?”

I’m not at the end of my life, but well past your decisions. And I can say, without hesitation: do what you think will give you most life satisfaction.

I was at a similar 3-fork, and chose the “career first” approach. I got stuck in a cycle of jobs and promotions which led me to be reasonably well off, but it required sacrifices: moving to places I didn’t much care for, working on projects I had no passion about, and ultimately being promoted into a position where I really hated what I was doing. And then did that for ten years, with promotions that only took me further from the things I loved and filling more hours of my life with things which I didn’t.

Also, I’d suggest you look at the future and play Nostradamus. In our career (we had the same), with LLMs, will you need happy? It’s maybe not soon, but inevitably LLMs and AI-adjacent technologies will make “computer programming” a very different job. For decades, people have been trying to put programmers out of work - remember “no code/low code” platforms? They’re still out there, and while they had a phase and many disillusioned customers, LLMs are only make them better, and one day, they won’t suck. Will you be happy if your job consists mostly of trying to translate business requirements into LLM queries, and then debugging its code?

I’m not an expert, but I would wager bio medical engineering is safer from AI than CIS. And, probably, more competitive yet lucrative.

I can’t tell you what’s best for you, but I can tell you that you won’t get smarter, only possibly wiser. The older you get, the harder it is to learn new fields, especially in STEM. If you don’t do a PhD it now, odds are greatly reduced that you’ll do it ever.

The PNW is a fantastic area. Be aware that Seasonal Affective Disorder is a thing, and you may not detect symptoms until after several years. It’s not common, but it’s also not rare.

Finally, if you plan on staying with your SO as a life partner, consider their life path carefully. If they work in a field where all of the best jobs are in Boston, for instance, that’s eventually going to become a topic.

You’re facing - IMHO - one of those fulcrum-of-life decisions which will drastically alter your destination in profound ways. Good luck.

Define “best”. Most upvotes? Most comments? Best score (up - down votes)?

Custom. I’d be fine with shared, but I’m an introvert at heart. And, since the 7 other people are humans, odds are good there’d be fairly regular contact, because introverts or not, apes are social creatures.

Shit. That’s exactly my list.

• I didn’t even watch GoT long enough to see Emilia Clark in the buff. But, then, I’d read the first two books and absolutely loathed them, and didn’t find the TV series improved the story much.
• I liked the first season of Lost, but the second felt like the writers were like, “oh shit… we got a second season? Shitshitshit…” Like they were just making it up as they went, and the writing and plot was just… bad.
• I didn’t watch BCS because I didn’t like
• Breaking Bad. I mean, I like scenes from BB, but the show itself suffered (for me) from this tendency in the past decade to base entire shows on tense anxiety. Boardwalk Empires was another that used this mechanism, as did
• Peaky Blinders. Great writing. Great acting. But it’s just constant tension, and it’s simply not fun.

It’s like directors got ahold of this one technique and just beat it into every fucking show in the past decade. It’s tired, overused, and you’ll notice it’s a common trait of many of the shows you and agree on. You have to have tension, but I didn’t need every god damned minute to be wondering if someone’s going to get their throat graphically slashed with a straight-edge.

Shit, that’s way more expensive. If only you knew someone in the US who would buy a few boxes and ship them to you…

But, seriously, yeah, that basically eliminates it as an option.

Jesus, this is me. I wish people would just tell me the price, and I could trust that they’re not just trying to haggle, or stiff me. I always just start with what I’ll accept.

We got new doors on the house this year, and it took me a while to get around to putting the “No Soliciting” sign up. Immediately started getting door-to-door sales. One does this spiel:

Him: “Normally, the initial cost is the big one, $600, because we have to bring out the truck, but we’re in the neighborhood doing all of your neighbors so we can take off $300.”
Me: “No thanks, I’m not interested.”
Him: “I really want to win your business, so I’ll take off another $100.”
Me: “No thanks, I’m not interested.”
Him: "I don’t know if you look at Google reviews, but we’re number 1! And, look, I really want your business, so I’ll take off another $100!”

And I’m thinking, “so, what you’re telling me is that you jacked up a fake up-front cost for suckers to use in the sales pitch,” and it’s having the opposite effect on me. The more he’s “knocking off” cost, the more it feels like he’s running a scam.

It’s one of the things I hate most about capitalism: the behaviors and lying it encouraged.

The iOS notification gong.

I don’t use Apple products, but that’s one of the most chill, relaxing sounds.

Just out of curiosity, is the product on Amazon, and is it that same price?

Unchecked capitalism and technology created an environment that is not healthy to grow up in. Also, we’re still apes and physical attractiveness has an unbalanced influence on our decisions. Also, we are not biologically monogamous, but many cultures indoctrinate children with those values, which confuses everyone.

I’ll say, the read was a rollercoaster I’m too old to identify with, but all of the parts are products of an unhealthy society.

It’s a challenging time in which to be a young person, much less an attractive, young woman - I’m assuming attractive if she’s got that many simps.

Thanks for the detailed explanation! I’ve worked with a ton of Indians (software development, East coast US), and I picked that up from one of them. It hadn’t occurred to me to verify it, mainly because it wasn’t critical knowledge for me; just trivia.

Ah, yeah. I didn’t pick up that they didn’t speak Hindi.

“Used to” is iffy, but sure. Why not? I’m sure if you read it once again, you’d be able to do it until you forgot again.

This is more expensive in your country?

https://a.co/d/9DiKeie

That’s a little over $11 USD per 100 GB disk. Is it just more expensive where you live, or is it shipping?

I’d be really surprised if these weren’t manufactured in Asia somewhere.

Not until it becomes violent, at which point it’ll be demonized by Media.

Ask her if her parents jumped off a cliff if she’d do it too.

No, it didn’t answer your question, nor is it helpful or useful advice. I just think it’d be funny and her parents absolutely used it on her at some point… it’s a mandatory phrase all parents are legally required to say to their kids at least once. It’s part of the contract you sign when the hospital gives you a baby.

That’s really interesting, and your theory sounds good. All martial arts have their personalities; Aikido is very structured, but not loud; Wing Chin is very quiet, and more laid back; Jiu Justsu is pretty quiet, too, except for a lot of grunting. Karate is quite martial - it reminds me of being in the Army. I’ve never studied it, but one of my friends did, and I sat in on a couple of classes. There’s an awful lot of shouting.