the_itsb (she/her)

fka u/the_itsb, aka the_itsb@beehaw.org, the_itsb@midwest.social, the_itsb@lemmy.world, the_itsb@sh.itjust.works 41f artsy ADHD married to 42m machine whisperer, teen son trans & also ADHD. We do outdoor equipment & small engine repair at our home just outside Athens, OH.

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Cake day: June 11th, 2023

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  • You’re passing in my household! I wouldn’t have guessed you were trans from this picture. My husband walked into the room to ask me something as I was about to comment, and I stopped him, told him I was going to ask an obvious question but just play along, showed him your picture, and asked him to guesstimate your age and gender with no other information; he guessed woman in her mid-20s.

    You have a beautiful face! Big, sad eyes, delicate brow and chin, and truly perfect lips (seriously - size, shape, everything about them is gorgeous). I really like your nose too, I’m super into strong noses on women and men and have told my husband and his sister - who hate their prominent noses - that the only thing I’d change about them would be to make them bigger. 😂🥰 Yours matches the proportions on the rest of your face perfectly.

    You’re genuinely beautiful. I’m really sorry you’re not feeling that way right now, but hopefully we can nudge you back to reality. ❤️


  • Am I the only person who keeps meeting medical professionals and support staff who don’t realize that insurance is unhelpful in some situations? The only insurance with premiums my family can afford has deductibles and co-pays/etc so high that we only ever paid premiums when we had it, we literally never once were able to also afford to go get care. Once the mandate dropped and we didn’t have to pay premiums anymore, we could use that money to self-pay our appointments.

    Sure, yes, if I get cancer or my husband is hit by a truck, we are fucked. But also, if we go bankrupt paying for insurance we can’t afford to use, I’m gonna be pretty fucked for that cancer anyway because I can’t afford the co-pays etc. Idk what part of “I can’t afford to pay premiums and co-pays until I potentially reach a $1.5k out of pocket maximum,” is so hard to understand.

    I helped host a local protest to raise awareness about Single-Payer (anybody else remember SPAN, the Single-Payer Action Network?) back in 2004, and holy fucking shit that was almost 20 years ago.





  • and being even mildly educated is a problem for our dipshit ideology

    For real though. I went to church multiple times a week from around age 8 until my late teens, I went to the private Christian school run by our church from grades 8 through 11, I was thoroughly indoctrinated - but it all started falling apart in my early teens, when the pastor told me that animals don’t have souls. How can you have pets and love them and not be absolutely certain that they have souls?!? And if he’s wrong about something so obvious and basic, what else is he wrong about??

    Turns out - everything 😂

    It really doesn’t take much education or life experience to start questioning it all.




  • How long of a useful life are you looking to get out of this tabletop? How severe will the wear and tear be?

    If you’re looking for something to last decades or stand up to heavy use, I think there’s no question that you need dowels/biscuits/whatever. Humidity and temperature changes are going to affect the bond between the glue and boards long-term, and the lateral pressure of heavy weight or motion will eventually be too much for that bond too.

    If you just want to make something useful and nice while practicing your skills, don’t plan to have it support any real weight, and fully expect to transform it or cannibalize it for parts eventually, then probably just glue will do.




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    1!Open Alpha!! RBlind - A community on Lemmy, brought to you by the moderators of the /r/blind subreddit.com

    Submitted 11 hours ago by user DHamlin Music (flair: Bilateral Optic Neuropathy)

    Since the news broke regarding the forthcoming changes to reddit’s API and the ippact that will have on the third party apps and tools many of us rely upon the mods here at r/blind have been working on an accessible option for those who either cannot or will not be staying on reddit. As talk of alternatives like mastodon, lemmy, and the like have increased we decided that it would be best to reveal what we have been working on, hence this post. Several days ago we shared this with those of you on our Discord server and have been asking for feedback.

    This project is by no means finished or polished, and is currently operating on development backend code and a beta UI to allow for access to still unreleased features that our community needs such as up/down votes displaying state changes, and nested comments, read this as there are and will be bugs and outstanding accessibility problems. However, the advantage of this platform is we control the servers, the UI, and can fix accessibility concerns ourselves instead of relying on a for profit company or the generosity of app developers to do it for us, not that the latter is unappreciated.

    So please be understanding of the above and we hope those of you who decide to join and see what we have done so far for all of us, and please report problems as you find them.

    https://rblind.com/




  • That was my answer for why I wanted to join, too! And I answered the “what will you contribute?” one pretty simply too, with the same things I try to bring to any conversation: my knowledge and empathy wherever they can be helpful.

    I took the questions as the same kind of very basic filtering that my husband does for his tractor enthusiast Facebook group; he’s not looking for essays, he just wants to know people will actually read (and follow!) the rules and not be jerks.