The guy you were replying to is saying “People hate GrapheneOS because it requires a Pixel,” they were not saying “everyone in the world should be using a Pixel” as you seem to have mistaken.
You’re getting very fired up and heated in the comments here… maybe take a break?
OF requires strict government issued ID verification in some jurisdictions. Patreon does not, at least in the US.
That should be your deciding factor already. No one should have their privacy invaded just to send you a few bucks a month.