99% of my ideas for what to do with friends have to do with “we hang, but at a bar”.

I’ve started to consider suggesting aquarium trips, outdoor movie nights, etc, but then I decided it might be nice to chit chat about it with y’all because I wanna hear what y’all like. Especially things you didn’t expect to be as pleasant as they were but became a regular thing.

  • itsnicodegallo@lemm.eeOP
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    5 months ago

    One problem that I forgot to mention is that I am a male who works with and meets a lot of women. I also tend to mesh better with women than men. However, even though I’m non-binary, if I meet a new person who is a woman, it feels a little too something-or-other to invite them into my home when we still don’t know each other that well. Bars are a neutral, public, casual space.

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      5 months ago

      That’s a very good point. When I was younger, I was naive and thought I could invite women over the same way as I could invite men. I must have made most of them uncomfortable (and probably disappointed the ones who did come over).

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      It’s less weird if you have a group of people over, as long as everyone knows it’s a group thing. That’s my default (I find bars too loud for conversation)–board/party games and drinks are a great combo.