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Hybrids: am I a joke to you?

“My child is going to grow up to be a happy adult. He’s not going to be one of those kids that doesn’t come to see me or doesn’t bring my grandchildren around or doesn’t have anything to do with me as an adult because I forced them into a box that they didn’t fit into.”

This guy parents!

I get an error from Element that says “the application is not able to create an account on this homeserver. Do you want to signup using a web client?”

Saying Yes to this prompt brings me to a dead link.

What am I missing?

Punching down on trans people rather than punch down inflation at the gas pump and grocery store.

I keep coming back to Mint+cinnamon as my daily driver and debian+xfce on older hardware. They just work and both distros and DE are simple and familiar coming from win10. There are enough built-in customization options for me to get the desktop looking how I want it but I don’t have to spend a day configuring it if I don’t want to. It might be a basic choice for basic people, but I was up and running in about an hour and after a month of not booting into windows I wiped that old drive to make room for data. I may switch over to LMDE at some point, but that is more philosophically motivated than an actual need.

There’s something to be said for simplicity.

Imagine being so afraid of people who have slightly different beliefs from you that you think moving to a dictatorship is a good idea.

That is a benefit and a drawback for me. The benefit is that I am less addicted to my phone because the content is finite. The drawback is that I need my fix damnit.

Just because the path for manhood was laid out for you doesn’t necessarily mean that it is the correct choice. It might be, and if it is, great. However, don’t assume that the default settings are necessarily the best settings just because they are default. It sounds to me like you aren’t happy with cisnormative manhood but are afraid and unsure. At the end of the day only you can decide what will make you happiest and accepting default manhood is just as much of a choice as deciding to reject all or part of it. Both choices come with a cost and a benefit. From what you describe, it sounds like full manly conformity comes with the benefit of built -in social acceptance but with the cost of being uncomfortable with your body and always wondering what could have been. Transitioning or even just deciding to identify as not-totally-cis comes with the benefit of self-actualization but may come with social costs; however sometimes people surprise you and are way more accepting than you might expect.

Also realize that gender is a spectrum and that people can be anywhere along that from man to non binary to woman and some people have identities that are ever-shifting and changing. There are a whole lot of ways to have gender and I encourage you to do a little reading to see if anything fits. You always get to change your mind if you identify one way and decide that it doesn’t fit later. If you decide that cis-man was right after all, that’s fine too but then you will know for sure having tried on a different identity. At 18, you have a lot of life left to figure it all out and university is a great time to explore gender.

https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en/

Good luck and we are rooting for you.

I’m happy for you. I also remember the weight that was lifted from my psyche when I finally put a name to what I was feeling.

As for your nation and state, the best thing to do is to get politically involved with other local LGBT folks. There’s nothing that makes one feel more helpless than sitting around and dreading the future!