Haven’t seen RTFM casually dropped in conversation online in… um… a while…

You’ve been hanging out on the intartoobz at least as long as I have. Circa the paleolithic era, or so…

Thought they charged something to put $ on temp card, via EFT though I may well be wrong.

Don’t recall the org name I conflated w them anymore u fortunately.

And from where I sit, yeah they pay me to some degree - the acct costs me nothing, and it’s got a handful of the usual “edge case” insurance benefits and such most debit cards don’t.

Not real useful to me, admittedly, but I do receive something.

That, and they reliably post direct deposit exactly 48h early, plus or minus fifteen minutes. Ability to plan my life around when exactly my check will show up has value. Seems to be very much a “best effort” basis to post early w/ most banks.

Lots of that stuff is useful because of my individual habits and patterns of spending I’m sure, might well not be for you.

Will check out privacy, now I’m kind of curious if there is something even more friction free for my scenario.

Pharm tech licensing varies wiiiiidely across the states. Some require natl very, some require basically on job training IIRC.

RPh not so much, but tech also has responsibility not to kill you with a misfill and more eyes are always good for preventing deaths.

The shit wages they pay in relation to being responsible in part for safety and accuracy (in retail) is a big part of why most retail is dangerously understaffed.

Same for insurance agents and real estate agents in many (most?) of US. HS, a couple weeks of “teaching to the test,” and a test is all it takes. Rote memorisation. - lots of those younger folks in insurance couldn’t define what they may/may not say/promise, or who is an “Insured” under a given policy.

Shame I stopped believing that BS from them circa winME…

Revolut does that, but far cheaper.

Are you alternating? Or combining?

Watermelon and salt sounds perfectly sane to me because chemistry.

Tortillas, fruit, and chili doesn’t make sense to me, but I’ve appropriated a ton of foods that “just work” to me so…. I get it nonetheless.

That’s a bullshit question, and distance can help with the stalking.

M here, carefully manipulated by an F abuser, so I understand at least some of it. Not your lived exp of course, but no one is immune.

The only women who should be hit are the women who actively consent to it, and the language surrounding it.

I met my wife because she actively lied on the internet about a thing that was important, but the die was cast.

There’s a certain high in that lashing out that’s tough to let go of. I feel you.

I wish that I could explain how I came to handle that stuff better, truth is I haven’t a clue. I just knew I’d come too far to risk losing what I have over anger of all things.

No shade, that’s cool. IDGAF what you look like once I know you, and that you are in tune with the emotion of the situation.

Paraphrasing a folk singer I respect here, but “I used to cry when needed, I can’t cry for the life of me anymore as an adult.”

Tears communicate that either I’ve fucked up, or there’s something I legit misunderstood, and I need to take a step back.

In some ways, I envy your ability to do that. Professional me doesn’t scree around, personal me rather wishes I could cry it out once in a while.

I’ve spent a lifetime fixing my inclination to escalate at the first sign of conflict, and…. It’s been brutal. I’m thrilled to mostly be gentle these days, but it still requires work.

You never gave into the BS.

Thank you for the TL;dw. Sincerely appreciated.

We moved from the Capital District of NY - which i loved - to the Midwest where my wife is from because money goes about three times as far here and I was still making NY money at the time.

Lots I miss from “back east generally, but not the prices.

I would have spelled that, “pay for my fountain pens and ink, and let me talk to my wife while she’s conscious,” but we are on same page.

Got caught young and “encouraged” into a stupid amount of hours so the boss could go fuck off. Won’t make that mistake again. WFH or not, if you expect 60+ a week, you can kiss my ass.

While that’s getting harder - RTO vibe is strong - I’m on same page.

I’ve had to pass on a few interesting opportunities, but Its served me well.

If I go out, it’s because I need something that can’t be shipped or door dashed, and/or it’s imprudent to pay the vig for delivery.

2x $4.99 bottles of wine? Yeah not paying $40 for that, I’ll take the risk.

Working on that POV, it’s basically always worth paying the vig to minimise my human interaction.

Edit: have WFH since c. 2012, so it makes zero sense to take the medical and driving risk to do otherwise, except for gig work in a pinch.

Demanding hybrid (“hybrid in Arizona”) is a clear sign the company is working towards RTO, and you’d have to wave a pretty big carrot to get me to move quickly anyway. OOP max met for the year, so…

Now that I’m $7k in on that stuff, why the hell would I make a move in May? I’ll suffer until the Sept deadline and peak season we suffer through, and then start looking.

Well, I’ll start looking before that, demo my loyalty by pushing out start date, and go from there. Like everyone else.

Wouldn’t cry if nothing else presents though, it’s not terrible company given that it’s non-union. Damn, I miss the CWA, but I was maybe twenty at the time and didn’t grasp the value fully.

PolicyCancelledByCarrier

If canx notice has been received, processed, blah blah, eventually it’s set to true.

If/when a reinstatement is received, set to false.

Zero ambiguity, something along that line saved my tail when working with devs in different countries with different insurance customs.

Carrier sent letter telling policy holder to get bent because “fuck you, pay me?” Field is true.

Otherwise, or with reinstatement letter, field true.

Used it in a pinch once, and realized how incredibly awesome it is. Now, it’s my go-to.

Haven’t tried data and files on same stick, but…. Now I want to.

There’s an SOL on rape in most scenarios.

But no statute of limitations on copyright violations? WTF?

Not aware of a FOSS 1:1, but that sounds like Ghost or your blogging platform of choice.

Except WP, if self hosting, IMHO. Wordpress == PHP == trouble and risk. I don’t mean to malign WP specifically, but if you’re a noob, you want to avoid exposing PHP to the public internet - especially if there’s any possibility you’ll eventually forget about maintaining and upgrading.

Just too damn easy for some threat actor to come along and exploit a vuln you missed, in the software or the web server or WP.

That said, years of WP taught me that, roughly, you want “pages” linking to “posts” ( == chapters). In theory, the former is a permanent reference and the latter is dynamic to some degree.

In reality, the existence of search engines before enshittification means the two have been conflated frequently.

Pages would often get links in a sidebar or menu. Posts might get buried much farther down, but can also be linked to. They’re often, but not always, time—specific.

“2023 NY [financial product] Guide” (page) might well link to a years-old post about subrogation regarding an attempted BBQ of a random wild animal that went wrong and caused a fire, because it’s a positively classic example of the same that makes a great deal of sense to most people, even if they don’t understand terms like subrogation.

Post/page are distinctions that WP makes, but are abstractly relevant to setting up abs any CMS (which is what you want, Content Management System) so that you (ideally) never have to figure out how or where to link something, its just native. Changing the structure means changing the URLs which is annoying at best, and fraught with peril at worst.

Above 2023 xxxx Guide page, would be https://example.org/NY-Xxxx-Guide and that way you DGAF about the sidebar links, for instance. Link it once, and then you only have to update 50 posts with the year and/or some change in the data, which can be done programmatically in the db as a trivial exercise. “UPDATE page SET title = (SELECT title FROM… WHERE ‘2022’ in title TO ‘2023’;”

Disclaimer: do not run that query as copypasta, it’s meant to illustrate a point and not to exhibit valid SQL on any db (Not least because I intentionally left out at least one closing paren and simplified a bit. I’m a PG guy, and I am 100% certain it would fail as written, but fully expect anything approaching the standard to reject it. But you get the idea, update 50 states at once with a fairly simple query, once a year.

Lots going on here, but go for a modern CMS and repeatable updates, not a legacy product with a bunch of tech debt accumulated. Build it clean, plan it out first, and know whatever DB is backing it fairly well.

You say, as if that sentiment isn’t nearly universal.

Migadu has been amazing. It “”just works,”and there’s no reason to deal with any of the crap that comes with hosting email.

They are affordable, and provide exactly what they claim to provide.

Email is not - IMHO - worth the trouble to self host. There are too many hard stops where email is required as login, etc to bother.

I enjoy hosting and using a variety of services. But I’ve no desire to bother with something I can ship out to folks who live and breathe that particular service.