I don’t have any data to meaningfully back it up but I will trust my gut and the things I have read from people here.

There is some significant amount of users here that fully / mostly abandoned social media and pretty often are in some kind of a post-reddit-lurker limbo, plus their age is around “I have a partner / family / job / hobbies / things in life I care more about than passionately posting / moderating online”.

My blind shot is that this group would be the growing / fresh part of lemmysphere but they just don’t feel the urge to go for another reddit-type experience as most often than not it was a shit show in the worst case and time consuming endless void sprinkled with really mixed quality content in the best case scenario. Plus you can lurk hard here without even making an account, with quite healthy approach, somewhere around “I don’t care about voting or commenting but let’s just check what is happening”.

What I would like to see evolving here is posts lifespans so they could properly aggregate the answers, responses or votes. Something like “follow this post / inform me about new comments”.

So…

1. You want to learn new things and now you are getting discouraged.

Why you wanted to learn new things? Was it adventure calling, random idea, someone gave you some advice/ideas or you were great in your imagination at them before even starting? Whatever it was, learning new things can be equally great and hard.

2. You seem to be failing at new things.

This is how learning works. Some people fail more and harder, or need more explanations, or more trial and error until the “thing” clicks in their head.

Did I miss anything? There is not enough information but let me shoot in the dark:

• The thing with diving or climbing, was it a one and done thing or do you continue doing it anyhow?

Why I am asking? There is quite a big difference in “I want to learn new things”, “I want to try/test new things”, “I am bored and just wanna do something” and “I am seeking for a (new) lifelong passion/hobby” or even harder “I want to get really good at X”… Depending on what your actual need is, there is plenty of possibilities why the process and effects are not satisfying for you.

• What does “looked bad” mean? Was it a comment from your instructor, or someone from the group gave you a weird look or laughed? Or you had it recorded and you compared your technique to others?

Sounds a little like some form of stage-fright, you can process the instructions and get what the instructor is saying but the problem begins during the “performance” part? Following the instructions and so on? This is quite common, especially during group classes with random people you don’t know. They can be quite chaotic and overstimulating… There is not much you can do to avoid it, but there is a lot you can do to work through it.

• Part about “no pressure”

Maybe a form of group classes is too much and just not for you at the beginning — maybe one on one approach would suit your needs better?

There are so many angles to approach this subject…

“I’d love to say Walking on Sunshine relates to a significant event in my life, like walking out of my front door, seeing a comet and being inspired. But it’s just a piece of simple fun, an optimistic song, despite us not being outstandingly cheery people. We were a typical young band, insecure and pessimistic. We didn’t have big hair and didn’t look anything like a Motown-influenced group. We didn’t have any credibility or a fanbase in awe of our mystique. We were a second-on-the-bill-at-a-festival-in-Germany pop band. But we had this song.” — Kimberley Rew, guitarist and songwriter

My path to this information:

step one → step two

[PL] Tego to się tutaj nie spodziewałem…

[EN] Quite unexpected to see some older polish vibes here!

Congratulatory handshake for product purchase is available upon request.

This is one of the most influential games ever for so many different reasons… I am definitely a big fan and have a lot of great memories with the classic one on NES, especially the 1v1 mode. It was a pure joy to play with my uncle, brother, friends or mom, she preferred Battle City tho!

This was long time ago, now if I play, I go for the Tetris Effect — which doesn’t change the main formula, it mostly builds around it or plays with it.

One of — counterintuitively — not so many games that you can just keep playing to get better at them, as your brain rewires itself and conscious decision making process goes into the deep, unconscious brain backroom magic. Of course to be the best there is a lot of technical knowledge or some tactical aspects but the base gameplay loop just keeps you in self-learning mode or more often than not, in the flow state.

Yeah, I’ve started searching for options and now I am thinking about it, there is LinkAce too…

For me, this is what works best now:

LibreWolf with:

• uBlock Origin

• CanvasBlocker

• raindrop.io — not as an extension but a pinned tab, mostly for convenience to keep my saved websites and articles in one place, if anyone knows anything better, or more useful, or open source, let me know

For over a decade now, I am fortunate enough to just let my body decide, so I go to sleep whenever I feel like I want to sleep and wake up whenever it happens…

Hours are funny tho, middle point is probably somewhere around 6, sometimes there are times when it is closer to 4, and less often but it happens, around 8.

From my observations and whenever I talk with anyone invested in their routines, it mostly boils down to quality over quantity. Shitty 9 or 10 hours might feel terribly unpleasant and 30 min power nap can do wonders sometimes.

I always believed to be the night owl until I discovered it can switch for me and then I figured out a new option of being a morning lark — I must say, both have some benefits actually but the whole day timetable changes dramatically.

Nah, sorry, I am not playing these games online. There, there and there you go.

It is not the best approach to communication by implying someones twisted / misunderstood intentions by just taking a few words out of context to force a not existing point.

Then it becomes a drama minefield.

I am not dealing with this to answer one of your questions but had plenty interactions with people who (without making any direct comparisons) were struggling with something like that — tho not all of them were self defining as asexuals.

You started the hard work of unraveling yourself through therapy — this is a great start. Maybe there were already some mentions about self-appreciation from therapists side, if not, this might be one of the ways later down the road. Self-appreciation and self-love might be too broad and abstract concepts for you in a place where you are using words like “repulsed” about yourself, but they can be approached in the future, in a healthy way.

I want to address the other thing, which might be the even bigger issue. Plenty of people treat their sexuality as if it was a stone with equations and sacred rules to live by — while sexuality can be a pretty fluid thing full of surprises. It takes a lot of self-discovering to understand and explore ones sexuality, even if it is an actual asexuality.

All of the above takes time, my only advice for you (as I know nothing about you) would be to invest as much time as you can into yourself. Therapy is a part of that investment. Asking yourself hard questions, having doubts, all this is a part of a complicated process. It even takes time to trust that process of exploring the unknown territories.

“The feeling hit me like a point blank shot straight in the face.”

Yup, when I was talking with a few different Microsoft representatives, they just straightforwardly stated that they don’t focus at all on punishing or pushing consequences for “obtained/purchased windows instances via any existing alternative/not supported ways” when it comes to private/home users.

They surely and happily will put the idea of buying a key or official upgrade from their certified resellers locally or online on the table.

It is quite a different story with larger organizations and companies.

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Of course all this info is based on just a few talks during the last decade and with incoming subscription (ugh) model a lot will change, I guess.

This is the tricky part — if you are navigating through situations like this, while respecting your own boundaries… You are the only person that fully deserves that “thank you” from yourself.

Hopefully you and the friend will get better.

As hard as it is in a situation like this, it is really important to understand own boundaries and if this was too much for you, respect your boundaries — in the beginning you might feel really torn, like you are betraying a friendship or leaving someone in need alone.

Additionally, your reaction might send a signal for them to seek help, it doesn’t have to but it just might be enough of a nudge in situation like this.

Bottom line is, if this decision was made from the position of respecting your current boundaries then whatever comes next is the best possible scenario in the long run.

Stay safe.

Some say they are Nokias 3310 among laptops.

From all the people I knew that ever had them, they still have, very often still use and eventually compare any other / newer laptops with them.

This is vanilla iOS 15.7

This is me.

Sigur Rós — Sæglópur Skream — Exothermic Reaction Caterina Barbieri — Gravity that Binds Thom Yorke — The Eraser (especially the last minute of this song)

That’s why falling in love is a very slippery road — in the emotional sense. If you fall, you will finally hit something, that’s how it works in nature.

Loving someone or building a solid relation based on love with someone is so much harder and not so automatic as falling, it requires committing and communicating — learning a difference is a key to not fall but to be more aware of the process and ones deeper emotions, especially someone else’s.

My guess is that’s why it is easier for so many people to love animals because they don’t fall in love with them, they just feel the love and act accordingly.

— Obviously, all this is a giant oversimplification because this is just a simple comment on the internet, not reality.